Yesterday was a day of realizing how my life has been and always will be different from most people I know.
I had plans to meet up with my best friend for lunch and shopping. We used to spend several days a week together, but since she had her baby 3 months ago, we haven't been able to spend much time together.
He is an adorable baby and I love him myself. I love to hold him and he is amazing to watch. I'm very proud of what a good mom she has turned out to be.
She and I are extreme dog people and she has been feeling a lot of guilt because since the baby was born, her dog has definitely taken a back burner even though we both used to say that would never happen. I ended up bringing her dog home with me for a couple of days so I could fill up her love bucket.
But the theme of the day was definitely the love between child and parent. First there was her love for him, how much she missed him while we were out, all the cute things he is starting to do, etc.
Then there was the conversation with Him about how he wasn't going to be able to see me because his daughter wasn't feeling well. He talked about how he would wait on his baby hand and foot if she wasn't feeling well and I broke down in tears. It's the most beautiful thing I have ever heard.
As I was going to bed last night, I tried to examine the reaction I had to try to determine why I had such a strong one and it smacked me in the face. I've never had that. Not ever. I was a daddies girl when I was little. And my dad left us when I was 8. He was a deadbeat dad, so there wasn't even an attempt at him trying to maintain a relationship.
My mother and I never got along. I was a shy, quiet, painfully self conscious girl and my mother was not a very tender person. She preferred my sister and the preference was so obvious that it ruined the relationship between us. As a result, I spent a lot of my time as a child wondering why I was so unlovable. I guess I still have a tendency to do that, though it isn't as debilitating.
What's the point to all this? My reaction to my friend and to Him were normal considering it is something I have never experienced in my life. It is a mystery to me and a dream to be loved so intensely. It is also likely something I will never experience since I can't have children and can't seem to find love.
Andy Rooney - CBS 60 Minutes.
As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.
If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting.
A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a damn what you might think about her or what she's doing.
Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.
A woman over 40 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women.
Women over 40 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her.
Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know.
A woman over 40 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women or drag queens.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. A woman over forty will tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow
pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress.
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